Endometriosis My Pregnancy Journey

Jealousy and Pregnancy?

November 8, 2010


I wanted to say a big personal thanks to everyone who has continued to visit this blog regularly and who have left comments or sent messages over the past week regarding my most recent posts. It means a lot to know that being honest and open about things inspires people, rather than turning them away.


There have been a lot of changes going on at the Patch and I have a lot of exciting ideas for the coming months, but right now I have a request for help…

As many of you know, I have been busy writing a weekly series for iVillageUK on Endometriosis and trying to conceive. Each week, for the past three months, a new article has appeared on the Pregnancy and Baby Channel, focussing on our journey towards beginning our TTC (trying to conceive) journey. We always knew that we wouldn’t actively start trying until after the wedding and tomorrow’s post will explain more about the heartache that has come from some of the setbacks we have faced.

However, next week’s article is going to be a hard one to write. It is going to focus on jealousy and I know this is something that many other bloggers have to deal with in terms of infertility. My own sense of jealousy, based on even the decision to start trying being far more complicated than it need be, is pale in comparison to that which others must feel and so I wondered if some of my readers might be kind enough to contact me with their own take on the matter.

I know this is a hard subject, and so I am asking one of two things: either a comment left on this post with a quotation you would be happy for me to use in next week’s article; or a private email sent to amanda.fisher@live.co.uk expressing how you feel so that they help me form a basis for the article without directly quoting.

I will, of course, send a copy of the finished article prior to sending to the editor to anyone who contributes.

Please feel free to send any friends you have who may be able to help in this direction, as I want this next article to be as informative as possible. I cannot write from personal experience about infertility, so my own thoughts on the matter would make the article too focussed on one perspective rather than a host of people’s experiences.

Thank you

  • Reply
    November 8, 2010 at 2:13 pm

    Jealousy and infertility go hand in hand. It’s just impossible to not notice all the happy families and bulging baby bellies when that is all you want in the world and it seems as if it will never come for you. But even with that being said, I have to say I didn’t struggle with jealousy the way many infertile women do. I was always able to separate their babies from MY baby, which was the one I was so longing for.

  • Reply
    November 9, 2010 at 1:49 am

    Hey 🙂
    wwell we might have one adorable bundle…. but now we’re both feeling sad and jealous of friends who are having another soon – we’re trying to wait and see if i get another contract next year, and until our financial situation is easier. Not easy at ALL. I feel pressured because I want to give Sofie a little friend too. So a bit of a different perspective – not sure if it’s helpful! But I hope it expands your sense of this whole thing!
    loads of love 🙂 xxx

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    Endo Explained
    November 10, 2010 at 10:03 am

    It sounds like a good idea – very best of luck.

  • Reply
    November 14, 2010 at 3:19 am

    I had sent a couple of messages out the other day asking people to contact you if they had input but this post makes it clearer to me what you’re looking for. So, I shared this post on Facebook in case any of my friends there have input for you.

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