Wow. I guess I gained more than just a “little” perspective from my previous post.
I have been very lucky with blogging, rarely receiving spam comments and never before receiving anything negative or hurtful. I know that some bloggers are not so lucky. And for someone who, as one of my commenters mentioned is “well-known for [my] honesty and candor”, I could quite easily bring about argumentative comments much more frequently.
The outpouring of love that has come from so many friends and blog readers (many of whom have become friends over time) is overwhelming. I don’t think I have ever received so many comments on a single post before. To know that I am loved, respected and supported so much is amazing and reminds me that I don’t have to justify my life to anybody but myself.
I still take issue with the judgemental nature of certain comments, as well as the confrontational tone. But I am reminded once again that this is small stuff compared to that which so many people have to face. As humans we are naturally judging, we all do it from time to time, and sometimes we aren’t even aware that this is what we are doing. And it saddens me that this is so. But I know it is a part of life, and the best I can do to overcome it is to remember that “what comes out of my mouth is about me and what comes out of your mouth is about you”.
It’s the “mirror effect” that explains how what we respect in another is something we respect within ourselves, and what we dislike about another is an aspect we take issue with within ourselves too. Many of the commenters on my previous post have helped me learn this through the years and this is just another chance to learn the lesson more completely. I ignored the first hurtful comment, realising that it would only make matters worse to add fuel to the fire. I can’t say that I could ever have let the second comment slip, because there is a difference between letting something slip by and ignoring something that could potentially hurt many. Another lesson to learn!
At first I was annoyed that the original point of my previous post had been lost in the uproar, but then I realised that the exact opposite was true. I may not face the same judgements as the Logan family, but judgements will always be there waiting for me. They may hurt, and they may shake my understanding of things, but they will always be processed, accepted and overcome with the love and support of the friends and family I am blessed with.
I may not have much in terms of “worldly goods” but I am rich beyond measure in terms of love and friendship, and I know which one I would choose every time!