Our Wedding on a Budget

Wedding Update – Blessings

June 3, 2010
Amanda and Tim engaged couple

Morning all!

I thought it was high time we had another “wedding update” and what better thing to update you on than the ceremony itself?

Amanda and Tim engaged couple

When Tim proposed to me last summer (in Italy, of course!) we immediately began thinking about how we wanted our wedding to be. The day after his proposal we went to an awesome wedding in Rome, and then another one in Oxford the following week. Both were so different, and it made us realise very quickly that our wedding could be anything we wanted it to be.

We thought of churches and how we didn’t want to have to promise things that we didn’t feel in our hearts. We thought of the register office and how it all felt so clinical. We quickly realised that wanted something in between.

We discussed eloping and having a very private ceremony. We thought of Gretna Green or Glastonbury. But, somehow, as exciting as it sounded, we couldn’t bear the thought of not having our closest friends and family share that special moment with us.


And that’s when we thought about creating our own blessing ceremony.

Our wedding day is going to be interesting, to say the least. We have our “legal” ceremony at the register office at midday, followed by a walk in the park for photos (taken by family and friends, of course, as we aren’t having a professional photographer). We have until 2pm to get to our other venue, where we will be holding a blessing ceremony, followed by the meal and reception, before the partying begins and our evening guests arrive. That means I have three different guest lists – one for the whole day, one for the blessing and reception, and one for the evening. Quite a lot to think about…

But even more challenging (and exciting, of course) is the fact that as we are doing this ourselves, we are creating an entire blessing from scratch. We wanted it to be personal and to celebrate what is special to us, which means we aren’t following any given ceremony that is already written. Sure, we will take aspects from other ceremonies, but this is our one chance to really express who we are as we make a commitment to each other in the presence of our friends.


Beautiful old ruins

Thankfully, we have the help and wisdom of some wonderful people who, whilst unable to make the wedding itself, have been there with me throughout so many of my biggest life changes and know exactly what I want to create on that day. Online friends can be true gems and the little group who I met first online and then in person at the wonderful Glastonbury Abbey have taken Tim under their wing too and are helping us shape the day as we speak.

In fact, I must give a “shout-out” to Jen, who despite being unable to make it over to England this autumn to lead our ceremony, is helping us figure out how to make it work by inviting several of our friends to lead small parts of the ceremony and make it a truly special part of the day.

So, my lovelies, I must leave you and go dream some more of the big event coming my way rather fast these days. Have a wonderful day and I’ll see you back here tomorrow xx

  • Reply
    June 3, 2010 at 2:09 pm

    AWWWWWW! It’s going to be a beautiful day!!!

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    June 3, 2010 at 2:14 pm

    I’d really like to do the whole personalised blessing thing: it’s something I’ve been thinking about since we decided we couldn’t do a church wedding and that a standard registry office was too normal. Parts of the University grounds are licenced for marriage (as is Wollaton Hall) so current plans are the Millenium Garden… Though I really want it in the grove of seven beech trees because I love using it as a LARP location for druids 😀 That or the summerhouse they uncovered a couple of years back opposite Cripps Health Centre, but that’s a bit small and on top of a giant rockery, so not massivley accesible. Matt’s very much not fussed about it, but we both like the idea of it being on campus because that’s where we met and where we’ve stayed. Having it in Nottingham is least-inconvenient for both families, too.

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    June 3, 2010 at 4:33 pm

    Best of luck with all of your wedding plans! We got married outdoors and it was wonderful. It was a sunny day with a breeze. I remember watching the forecast leading up to the wedding and hoping it wouldn’t rain. It didn’t. I’m so glad we did it the way we did it. I can still picture the neat rows of white chairs on the lawn. It was lovely. I hope your day turns out exactly the way you want it to.

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    June 12, 2010 at 5:09 pm

    yay, i love your wedding update!! It sounds like it will be wonderful and means you will actually remember your vows instead of remembering “mumble, mumble, mumble….I do”!(i dont actually remember mine, hence the mumbley sounds)!

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