Health & Wellbeing Poetry

My Daddy is Poorly – a poem about family life and chronic illness

March 10, 2015

Living with chronic illness is hard on all members of the family.

For TJ it means living with awful pain day in and day out, with new symptoms developing whilst we wait for even more tests and referrals. And for me it means watching the man I love reduced to a shadow of his former self, unable to do anything but stand by in support.

But for Little Man it is simply confusing… he knows daddy is poorly and sad, but he doesn’t quite know what to do about it. He is only 3, after all, how can he possibly understand what is going on?

So, with this on my mind this morning, I decided to write something for him. As with most of my poems, once I got started the words began to flow right out of me and I was able to read it to both TJ and Little Man over breakfast.

It made both TJ and myself rather emotional and Little Man listened intently. And I realised it was something that needed to be shared – after all, how many other families may feel exactly like we do?

TJ gave me his blessing to share it (I always check before I post anything personal on here) and so here it is:

My daddy is poorly

My daddy is poorly
he hurts every day,
he has lots of medicine
to take pain away.

Sometimes he’s unhappy,
sometimes he is sad,
sometimes he’s frustrated
and sometimes he’s mad.

He tells me he’s okay,
that things are alright.
He plays with me each day,
reads books every night.

But I know he’s hurting
and that makes me sad,
I can’t make him better
and that makes me mad.

Sometimes I am naughty,
sometimes I will cry,
sometimes I get angry
and sometimes I sigh.

And then daddy hugs me
and holds me so tight,
he kisses me gently
and says we’re alright.

My daddy is poorly,
he hurts everyday,
but when we’re together
it all goes away

  • Reply
    March 12, 2015 at 8:23 pm

    Beautiful…and very touching… thank you so much for sharing! big hugs to all of you!

  • Reply
    Yvette @ Big Trouble in Little Nappies
    March 14, 2015 at 8:14 pm

    Awe this is very sweet and touching. I’m sure both of your boys are glad of your insights and understanding. Big hugs to you all x #mbpotw

  • Reply
    Coombe Mill
    March 14, 2015 at 9:27 pm

    My heart goes out to you all, I wish I could take all the hurt away, time together is the most precious thing.

  • Reply
    March 16, 2015 at 9:13 pm

    it must be hard enough for yourself dealing with your hubby’s illness let alone explaining it to a child. The poem is very touching to read. It hope it helps him understand a bit. I’ve not been around for a bit and have missed what’s been going on

    • Reply
      March 21, 2015 at 9:43 pm

      Thanks Gem… don’t you worry about missing what has been going on! I haven’t blogged about it all as it has been very “backwards and forwards” but needless to say it has all be rather stressful!

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